‘Fighting’ With a Very Important Stakeholder Could Extend Your Life

My wife is a very important stakeholder in any project that I run. She can certainly influence me during the execution of a project, especially if I have to work long hours away from home. Occasionally we might even disagree over what I should be doing, so I was interested to read the preliminary findings of a study by Researchers at the University of Michigan School of Public Health and its Psychology Department, who say that fighting with your spouse can actually be good for your health, while people who bottle it all up can die earlier.
They studied 192 couples for 17 years, and found that the couples fell into four categories: where both partners expressed anger when they felt unfairly verbally attacked, where neither partner expressed their anger, and one category each for where the wife suppressed her feelings and where the husband did so.
Ernest Harburg, lead author of the study, said in an interview.”I would say that if you don’t express your feelings to your partner and tell them what the problem is when you’re unfairly attacked, then you’re in trouble,”
The study found that those who kept their anger in were twice as likely to die earlier than those who don’t. There were 13 deaths in the group of 26 pairs where both partners suppressed their emotions, as opposed to only 41 deaths in the remaining 166 pairs.
So it seems that the act of suppressing the emotions of either yourself or your spouse is, eventually, very bad for you. I will mention this study to my wife the next time she yells at me, and see how she reacts when I yell back at her (in the interests of science, of course).
A study has been done that shows just how important your project stakeholder’s expectations can be when they evaluate a product.